This post has come at such an apt moment for me. I was just now mulling about how I find it so hard to find a common ground with most “school moms” - as sadly that is where I meet new adults the most now. I don’t seem to have a matching wavelength with most of them, and I was wondering if that’s okay? But I just can’t pretend to get along anymore, or be someone I’m not. For me quality of friendships has always been above quantity- for better or worse.
I totally agree, and it’s also normal to feel what you’re feeling! I decided a while back that I’m no longer going to ‘try’ to fit in as it’s just not natural to me. But I have realized that physical places are not the only places to make friends. This platform for example is a great place to find like minded people. It’s not cluttered with the type of people from Instagram and I personally feel it has more substance.
You're my virtual friend! You will always be drawn to like minded people in the first instance, then the friendship grows when you start to value opinions.
Girl this is so true. I’m so lucky I have a group of girlfriends which I met in my 20’s that I still see and connect with now. It’s hard with our daily lives to go and get some tapas and drinks but we try to go to each other’s homes to visit and cook for each other when one doesn’t have the money to go out even when we’re offering. Now I have tried several times to connect with new people and it’s been great but sometimes they just drift away, you get ghosted lol. Which is ok I don’t force these things. I’m actually debating whether to contact an old coworker because I told them about my health situation over a year ago and that person who I thought we got along great hasn’t even said how are you doing in over a year. But sometimes shit happens and I have no idea if this person is going thru their thing so I will reach out this week. Sometimes you have to give the benefit of the doubt. But I’m always open to meeting people wherever they are. As we get older you never know when you’re going to need that friend. I do like this little corner of the internet because it feels intimate and you can actually connect. Whether that happens we shall see. Here’s to friendship 😊
Very true - it’s difficult as you get older, however it’s also the time you may feel you need a friend most! My view is, be open and what comes with come and what doesn’t, wasn’t meant for you anyway.
This post has come at such an apt moment for me. I was just now mulling about how I find it so hard to find a common ground with most “school moms” - as sadly that is where I meet new adults the most now. I don’t seem to have a matching wavelength with most of them, and I was wondering if that’s okay? But I just can’t pretend to get along anymore, or be someone I’m not. For me quality of friendships has always been above quantity- for better or worse.
I totally agree, and it’s also normal to feel what you’re feeling! I decided a while back that I’m no longer going to ‘try’ to fit in as it’s just not natural to me. But I have realized that physical places are not the only places to make friends. This platform for example is a great place to find like minded people. It’s not cluttered with the type of people from Instagram and I personally feel it has more substance.
This is an amazing piece. No one has spoken on this for a very long time. 👏👏👏👏👏👏touched a chord.
Glad you enjoyed reading it. Wouldn’t be nice to have the kind of confidence we had when we were children!?
You're my virtual friend! You will always be drawn to like minded people in the first instance, then the friendship grows when you start to value opinions.
100% agree - sometimes a connection grows with time which in my opinion is much more valuable and trustworthy.
Girl this is so true. I’m so lucky I have a group of girlfriends which I met in my 20’s that I still see and connect with now. It’s hard with our daily lives to go and get some tapas and drinks but we try to go to each other’s homes to visit and cook for each other when one doesn’t have the money to go out even when we’re offering. Now I have tried several times to connect with new people and it’s been great but sometimes they just drift away, you get ghosted lol. Which is ok I don’t force these things. I’m actually debating whether to contact an old coworker because I told them about my health situation over a year ago and that person who I thought we got along great hasn’t even said how are you doing in over a year. But sometimes shit happens and I have no idea if this person is going thru their thing so I will reach out this week. Sometimes you have to give the benefit of the doubt. But I’m always open to meeting people wherever they are. As we get older you never know when you’re going to need that friend. I do like this little corner of the internet because it feels intimate and you can actually connect. Whether that happens we shall see. Here’s to friendship 😊
Very true - it’s difficult as you get older, however it’s also the time you may feel you need a friend most! My view is, be open and what comes with come and what doesn’t, wasn’t meant for you anyway.