Can We Stop Acting Like We Know Everything?
Why is it that the minute you mention something…literally anything….suddenly everyone becomes an expert on it? If I say “I’ve been trying Morpheus8” (in case I need to state it…I actually haven’t) and BAM, someone (who you didn’t even know followed you) appears with, “You shouldn’t do that, it burns the fat off your face” or “That treatment ruins your skin long term” or “It’s a scam.”
Sorry…..when did we all become dermatologists?
Let me be clear….opinions are fine. Everyone is entitled to one. But the way people throw around their opinions as facts….as if there’s only one right answer and they happen to hold it in their holy grail skincare brain is exhausting. Especially in the beauty and wellness space, where everything is so individual and tailored. What works for one person might not work for another, and that’s okay.
Also, there are thousands of Dermatologists out there. They all have their own preference and opinions too, as well as being certified. If yours says something is bad, it doesn’t mean mine is wrong…it doesn’t even mean yours is wrong! It just means there is a difference of opinion and you choose who you listen to and I choose who I listen to and we both do our due diligence with research.
There’s this strange culture now, especially online, where sharing your experience means inviting unsolicited advice…or you could even call it correction. I talk about something I’ve tried, and instead of curiosity or respectful conversation (which is why I’d assume most people follow me), people want to shut it down like they’re trying to win a debate or convince me that I don’t know what I’m talking about but they do. Sometimes it’s less about concern and more about people trying to flex their knowledge. I think it’s also important to understand that Google or TikToK isn’t a medical degree.
When it comes to any treatment, I’ve done my research, I’ve spoken to professionals, I’ve seen the results…on myself and others. But that doesn’t mean I’m telling you that you need to get it. I’m just sharing what I’m doing. That’s it. Just my journey.
We’ve really got to stop pushing our personal choices onto others as if they’re universal truths. You don’t need to correct someone for doing what feels right for their body, skin, or face. You don’t have to agree with them. You also don’t have to even comment.
Sometimes I just want to share without the lecture. Without the “well actually” response. Sometimes I just want to talk about a treatment or a product the same way I’d chat about a new restaurant I tried.
Anyway, this is just your friendly reminder that we don’t always have to be right, and someone else doing something differently isn’t a personal attack on your choices. Let people live. Let people experiment. Let people share without immediately dissecting every word they say.
There’s room for all of us to figure things out our way…and none of us know it all.
End of rant.
Nina, my makeup Guru, unfortunately this world is full of all kinds of people and some are very insecure & have very low self esteem! Some may even be self-absorbed narcissists who want to convince themselves & everyone else that they are the sole & best judges of what is or isn’t good. When you’re dealing with such a diverse audience, many who know so little that they can’t recognize a professional like you, promise me for your own sanity to just ignore them. You are an outstanding makeup artist as well as a teacher! A psychiatrist you are not! And for some of them, even a psychiatrist can do nothing. Ignore them & don’t acknowledge them! Why would I listen to anything they would have to say? Don’t worry about it. People who follow you want to learn from you & you have the credibility regarding your specialty that we don’t. On the other hand, the Internet is like the Wild Wild West, so it is possible that some competitor might be trolling you and would try to discredit you. Again, this is your channel, we are here for you & not about to listen to someone else. In the Breakfast Club we sometimes exchange ideas, ask for opinions, and it would be nice &?we would welcome your input if one of us is facing a challenge, like someone recently asked about problems she’s experiencing with correctors for dark circles. You can always tell by our chats when we’re exchanging ideas in an effort to learn with each other when applying what we have learned from you. I know in my heart that I speak for all of us that are your serious students that we don’t pay attention to the noise! It hurts us to learn that some nasties out there are trying to challenge you & even put you down. I personally haven’t encountered this, but don’t worry, if someone made any untoward remarks about you or challenged something you said, I might stand up for you & respond to them, or I might decide that they’re crazy enough that I would chose to ignore them! If no one bites, maybe they would just decide to go away. Your audience is strong & loyal to you, because you have earned our respect!❤️❤️❤️
This is a very good rant 😊!! It's so easy to get caught up in your "truth" that you think it should be everyone's truth as well.